Sunday, December 28, 2008
Friday, December 26, 2008
christmas sucks. . .
well i guess it doesnt suck, it's acctually usually pretty cool. But having tyler split up between 15 families sucks. He has to go have christmas with:
- james
- james' family
-james' girlfriends 5 mom and dads
- me and jake
- my family
-jakes family
and his birthday is on christmas eve so he also has 2 parties usually around the same time too.
When kids have too much stimulation on little sleep they tend to get so overwhemed and dont know how to control their feelings of the overwhelmedness. Basically Tyler was so tired from opening presents for b-day and christmas with his dad and family from christmas eve that on chrismas morning he woke up and had a meltdown. He said several times that he didnt want to open presents and he didnt want any of his presents until he got a skateboard. Apparently he got one at james' and he would not have anything else but to have one at our house too. (luckly i called james on christmas eve and asked if there was anything that ty really liked that he thought i should get too, so i got a skateboard but ty didnt know that yet). So the morning was just crankyness. Then at my parents house he was just crazy hyper, running around everywhere! then we took a nap around 4:30 and at 7 went to jakes parents house. Ty didnt want to eat dinner and didnt want to open presents either. He just sat and watched a movie.
You would think that christmas would be fun for kids, but because ty has to go so many places he is just so exahusted and doesnt care really. I feel really bad for him, he should get to enjoy it.
Other then ty's 45 meltdowns durring the day christmas was really good. The family time was good and so was the food.
Also i feel like i'm getting closer to jakey recently, maybe it's the holidays or maybe its because we're getting married in freaking like 75 days, but whatever it is, it is wonderful! : )
- james
- james' family
-james' girlfriends 5 mom and dads
- me and jake
- my family
-jakes family
and his birthday is on christmas eve so he also has 2 parties usually around the same time too.
When kids have too much stimulation on little sleep they tend to get so overwhemed and dont know how to control their feelings of the overwhelmedness. Basically Tyler was so tired from opening presents for b-day and christmas with his dad and family from christmas eve that on chrismas morning he woke up and had a meltdown. He said several times that he didnt want to open presents and he didnt want any of his presents until he got a skateboard. Apparently he got one at james' and he would not have anything else but to have one at our house too. (luckly i called james on christmas eve and asked if there was anything that ty really liked that he thought i should get too, so i got a skateboard but ty didnt know that yet). So the morning was just crankyness. Then at my parents house he was just crazy hyper, running around everywhere! then we took a nap around 4:30 and at 7 went to jakes parents house. Ty didnt want to eat dinner and didnt want to open presents either. He just sat and watched a movie.
You would think that christmas would be fun for kids, but because ty has to go so many places he is just so exahusted and doesnt care really. I feel really bad for him, he should get to enjoy it.
Other then ty's 45 meltdowns durring the day christmas was really good. The family time was good and so was the food.
Also i feel like i'm getting closer to jakey recently, maybe it's the holidays or maybe its because we're getting married in freaking like 75 days, but whatever it is, it is wonderful! : )
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
maybe this is a miracle in disguise
So i have decided to quit my job. And i think it is going to be one of the best decisions ever. hopefully. lol
It basically comes down to this: a couple girls from my office and i went to the only woman on the executive team because we felt that we were being discriminated against from our boss because we are women. Then the next day our CEO and my boss called a meeting with our whole department and said that their were people creating rumors around the office that were complete 'crap' and that if we didnt like our job we should quit because they have a line of people waiting to take our jobs. Yeah, i dont know what planet they are from but that was illegal. Nobody talked to us about our feelings or tried to resolve it, they just threatened our jobs...
And then today our boss (who i have the problem with) decided that maybe he should talk to us. Then when we told him that we felt we were being treated un-fairly and that someone should have talked to us about it and that it was illegal what they did, he turned around and said, "well i could fire you guys right now because your hair is not professional today." (our hair were in pony-tails today). We got extremely mad at him and he said, "it's in the employee handbook that you have to look professional." I buy expensive clothes to go to work in and dress extremely professional, in my opinion. But when he said he would fire me because of my hair i lost all of my respect for him.
However, i'm looking for a part-time job on off hours so ty doesnt have to go to daycare and i could spend all day with him. The thing with this though is that he will probably sleep at Jame's, which i honestly dont like at all. But i think it will be worth it if i get to spend all day with him : )
I think i wrote a blog about this a couple weeks ago. I never see Ty, it is sooooo stupid! The world should make it easier for families.
There is a job that i am interested in already, it's Mon-Fri 6pm-midnight, 30 hours a week but pays as much as i get now p/h, and we would actually have more money then working full time because ty wouldn't go to daycare, and we wouldn't have to pay that ridiculous bill!! We shall see!
It basically comes down to this: a couple girls from my office and i went to the only woman on the executive team because we felt that we were being discriminated against from our boss because we are women. Then the next day our CEO and my boss called a meeting with our whole department and said that their were people creating rumors around the office that were complete 'crap' and that if we didnt like our job we should quit because they have a line of people waiting to take our jobs. Yeah, i dont know what planet they are from but that was illegal. Nobody talked to us about our feelings or tried to resolve it, they just threatened our jobs...
And then today our boss (who i have the problem with) decided that maybe he should talk to us. Then when we told him that we felt we were being treated un-fairly and that someone should have talked to us about it and that it was illegal what they did, he turned around and said, "well i could fire you guys right now because your hair is not professional today." (our hair were in pony-tails today). We got extremely mad at him and he said, "it's in the employee handbook that you have to look professional." I buy expensive clothes to go to work in and dress extremely professional, in my opinion. But when he said he would fire me because of my hair i lost all of my respect for him.
However, i'm looking for a part-time job on off hours so ty doesnt have to go to daycare and i could spend all day with him. The thing with this though is that he will probably sleep at Jame's, which i honestly dont like at all. But i think it will be worth it if i get to spend all day with him : )
I think i wrote a blog about this a couple weeks ago. I never see Ty, it is sooooo stupid! The world should make it easier for families.
There is a job that i am interested in already, it's Mon-Fri 6pm-midnight, 30 hours a week but pays as much as i get now p/h, and we would actually have more money then working full time because ty wouldn't go to daycare, and we wouldn't have to pay that ridiculous bill!! We shall see!
Sunday, December 7, 2008
it's official
- i am officially obsessed with Twilight...
I have never liked a book (series) and movie, so much in my life! I am very surprised at myself honestly, i never thought i would like something that includes vampires and ware wolves it's so nerdy. But i guess i like it for the love story, it's so cute.
- It's officially 3 months to our wedding (!!!!!!!!)
It's so crazy! in 3 months i will be married to the most wonderful man in the world.
- i officially want to move..
i dont know if we will, but i cannot live in one place for more then a year and a half, we've been here a year and one week so i think it's about time to start looking...i dont know though, this house may be good for a while. i just need a change.
- my department is officially under appreciated at work
we had our work Christmas party last night and it was very obvious how important my department is to everyone else in the company. Everyone there says that it is all about the sales. The sales department which is about 70% of the company are way more appreciated then we are and it is complete shit. I mean, i love my job, it has to be the best job i've ever had (so far) but the sales people go out there a lot and lie to people then we have to be the ones to defend their lying and we get no recognition for that. I understand that in every company the sales people bring in the bacon, but if we werent there then then our company wouldnt be able to work either.
-i'm officially ready for Christmas...
i have had peppermint mocha's up the yin yang, gone shopping on black Friday, put up (1/2 of) the Christmas tree, bought $100 worth of peppermint scented bath and body works stuff, and bought cheese from hickory farms.
I have never liked a book (series) and movie, so much in my life! I am very surprised at myself honestly, i never thought i would like something that includes vampires and ware wolves it's so nerdy. But i guess i like it for the love story, it's so cute.
- It's officially 3 months to our wedding (!!!!!!!!)
It's so crazy! in 3 months i will be married to the most wonderful man in the world.
- i officially want to move..
i dont know if we will, but i cannot live in one place for more then a year and a half, we've been here a year and one week so i think it's about time to start looking...i dont know though, this house may be good for a while. i just need a change.
- my department is officially under appreciated at work
we had our work Christmas party last night and it was very obvious how important my department is to everyone else in the company. Everyone there says that it is all about the sales. The sales department which is about 70% of the company are way more appreciated then we are and it is complete shit. I mean, i love my job, it has to be the best job i've ever had (so far) but the sales people go out there a lot and lie to people then we have to be the ones to defend their lying and we get no recognition for that. I understand that in every company the sales people bring in the bacon, but if we werent there then then our company wouldnt be able to work either.
-i'm officially ready for Christmas...
i have had peppermint mocha's up the yin yang, gone shopping on black Friday, put up (1/2 of) the Christmas tree, bought $100 worth of peppermint scented bath and body works stuff, and bought cheese from hickory farms.
Monday, December 1, 2008
i dont know what this is about...
Has anyone noticed gas prices? They rock! I may be showing how young I am right now, but I have never driven with gas prices this low before. . . it’s cool.
I have had such a fun week. I know that I just said in my last blog that I never have a girls night out, but the burtons were in town so I went out to dinner and a movie with them. We saw Changeling and it was probably one of the saddest movies ever, if you are a mom don’t go and see this. It was especially bad because it was James’ night with ty and so Ty wasn’t home for me to see him after the movie. I cant even imagine losing ty and then finding out that he might have been murdered and nobody helping me to find him. Holy smokes. Angelina Jolie did a great job though. Then on T-day I took Jake to see Twilight (again)! Then we had dinner at my grandma’s, it had to be one of the best t-days ever, it is usually really boring, but my grandma had a Wii and so my whole family played that for several hours, it was fun, but ty didn’t like other people playing. Then we went to the Rogers’ house and had dinner there too. Jakes family always goes around the table and says what they are thankful for, it is cute but it is so awkward! It’s like everyone is thankful for each other, which is obvious but if you don’t say it it’s like you don’t care about them, so everyone goes around and says the same thing. It is really nice though and I’m glad that they want to share that every year. On Friday I went shopping super early, I went to Kohls and I thought it opened at 5 but it opened at 4 so I was an hour late, because I was an hour late I stood in line for 45 minutes to check out! If you can picture Kohls, they have two check out things on either side of the store, well they two lines went all the way to the back of the store and met in the middle!! Ahh! And I dint have a cart or bag, so I held all my stuff, and my arms literally hurt for the next 2 days. Then I went to work and decorated our office, then went to get ty at school and went shopping with him! Then went shopping later that day with Jakey! Woot woot! On Saturday we went to the car show, it was fun, jake has never been there before but I love going so it was good, it was in the new civic center, they did a great job and had no problem spending as much of our tax dollars as they could.
Writing these blogs always make me think about how much I don’t have Tyler. I almost always write about things that I do when I don’t have ty because when I do have ty we like to stay home to spend time with each other, or we go to Chucky Cheese, and nobody wants to hear about that. So anyways, last week I calculated how much time I actually have Tyler and I had a reality check of how horrible our world is. I did the math based on hours he is awake because that is the time I have to teach him about the world and such…so ty spends 60% of his waking hours at day care, 24% with me and 16% with James. (Of course I would have him way more if I counted the time he slept) I thought that this was maybe because Ty splits his time between me and James, but even if we didn’t do that I would still only have him 40% of the time. Then I thought that maybe I work too much, but I work 40 hrs a week, that is completely normal. When I realized the amount of time that is passing where I could be out with Ty instead of working for money just so it could be thrown away to bills I swear I almost quit my job.
I wrote a bunch more, but decided I was venting too much. I just think society needs to put family above money and make it easier to stay home with your family the first couple years, and if they can’t or for some reason don’t want to then daycare needs to be cheaper, I mean I could pay for an apartment and utilities in that apartment with the amount of money I give the daycare.
I have had such a fun week. I know that I just said in my last blog that I never have a girls night out, but the burtons were in town so I went out to dinner and a movie with them. We saw Changeling and it was probably one of the saddest movies ever, if you are a mom don’t go and see this. It was especially bad because it was James’ night with ty and so Ty wasn’t home for me to see him after the movie. I cant even imagine losing ty and then finding out that he might have been murdered and nobody helping me to find him. Holy smokes. Angelina Jolie did a great job though. Then on T-day I took Jake to see Twilight (again)! Then we had dinner at my grandma’s, it had to be one of the best t-days ever, it is usually really boring, but my grandma had a Wii and so my whole family played that for several hours, it was fun, but ty didn’t like other people playing. Then we went to the Rogers’ house and had dinner there too. Jakes family always goes around the table and says what they are thankful for, it is cute but it is so awkward! It’s like everyone is thankful for each other, which is obvious but if you don’t say it it’s like you don’t care about them, so everyone goes around and says the same thing. It is really nice though and I’m glad that they want to share that every year. On Friday I went shopping super early, I went to Kohls and I thought it opened at 5 but it opened at 4 so I was an hour late, because I was an hour late I stood in line for 45 minutes to check out! If you can picture Kohls, they have two check out things on either side of the store, well they two lines went all the way to the back of the store and met in the middle!! Ahh! And I dint have a cart or bag, so I held all my stuff, and my arms literally hurt for the next 2 days. Then I went to work and decorated our office, then went to get ty at school and went shopping with him! Then went shopping later that day with Jakey! Woot woot! On Saturday we went to the car show, it was fun, jake has never been there before but I love going so it was good, it was in the new civic center, they did a great job and had no problem spending as much of our tax dollars as they could.
Writing these blogs always make me think about how much I don’t have Tyler. I almost always write about things that I do when I don’t have ty because when I do have ty we like to stay home to spend time with each other, or we go to Chucky Cheese, and nobody wants to hear about that. So anyways, last week I calculated how much time I actually have Tyler and I had a reality check of how horrible our world is. I did the math based on hours he is awake because that is the time I have to teach him about the world and such…so ty spends 60% of his waking hours at day care, 24% with me and 16% with James. (Of course I would have him way more if I counted the time he slept) I thought that this was maybe because Ty splits his time between me and James, but even if we didn’t do that I would still only have him 40% of the time. Then I thought that maybe I work too much, but I work 40 hrs a week, that is completely normal. When I realized the amount of time that is passing where I could be out with Ty instead of working for money just so it could be thrown away to bills I swear I almost quit my job.
I wrote a bunch more, but decided I was venting too much. I just think society needs to put family above money and make it easier to stay home with your family the first couple years, and if they can’t or for some reason don’t want to then daycare needs to be cheaper, I mean I could pay for an apartment and utilities in that apartment with the amount of money I give the daycare.
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