I’ve been thinking a lot lately how all parents are different. For example, when Jake is making a big decision he tells his parents and they support him no matter what it is, but they also give him advice on how to get to his goal. When James is making a big decision he tells him parents and they go through every possible scenario of what would happen and talk about it all the time. And if his mom doesn’t like the idea she will try to convince him not to do it no matter what. When I tell my parents about something I have to know every single freaking detail before I tell them. I need to tell them who, what, when, where, why and how before they will approve or even listen. It’s kind of weird but it’s the way I’ve always been raised.

So the reason why I bring this up is because James, Michael, Tyler, Jake and I are all buying a house together. I know it’s kind of weird to most people but it is going to be super super good.

Reasons why it’s good for James:
James needs a lot of help right now trying to figure out how to live life and have relationships with people and really needs to learn how to put his kids first (which is hard to understand when you are 21 and naturally selfish). So we are hoping that Jake and I can be role models for him in those ways. James is really uptight and stressed all the time, he thinks about things too much and Jake and I are very relaxed so hopefully James can relax more.

Reasons why it’s good for Jake and I:
With the relaxed thing, sometime we are too relaxed when we should worry about things more, so hopefully James will rub off on us too. We want to make an investment in the house. We are buying a house that is going to be relatively cheap while the market sucks right now, then when we’re ready we are going to sell it and split the profits and buy our own separate houses (Jake and I then James will buy his own.) And if we don’t make very much money off of the house we still are going to save a crap load every month by splitting bills and we are going to save all of that for a down payment of our own. We have been talking about buying a house our self but in this economy that can ruin your life if you lost a job or something happened, and with Tyler I really don’t want to take that risk and either does James. I know it will be weird because we just got married but this is a plan for the future, we’re setting up financially for our future.

Reasons why it’s good for the boys:
Mike and Ty are completely different kids, I think it will be good for them to balance each other out. They love spending time together so sharing a room will be no problem. And Mike has some behavioral problems, he has a good heart but has some problems that need to be worked on. So I think it will be good for him to see how ty behaves all the time. (not saying that ty is an angel or mike is bad, just that they can learn from each other). Ty has been confused for several years because James and my parenting styles are completely different, which makes it hard on him and confused on what he can and cannot do. So that will be good for him.

Reasons why it could be bad:
We’re buying a house, not renting, this is an investment and we’re pretty much stuck together if we want this to work. But the good thing is that if it really doesn’t work and we want to give up one family could just move out. (since we’re buying a house cheap enough). It could potentially ruin our friendship. I don’t think it will but what if it does? Other then that we have really put enough thought in to this where we wont be screwed.



So we got approved for a mortgage yesterday and with all of the 1st time home buyer incentives from the govnt. we are getting a really good deal. So we are buying a house that only two of us can afford if someone lost their job and that way it will be cheap and we can all save our money to buy our own houses in a couple of years. Ideally we want a 4 bedroom house so the boys can share a room (they want to) and we can have one for a baby (!) and we want one room separated from the others so that James can have his own space if he needs it. We are going to test this out before we sign on the dotted line though, James and Mike are going to move in to our current house for a couple of months while we look for houses to make sure we can live together. But all of us, the boys, our friends, and James and Jake’s parents feel really good about it. I haven’t told my parents yet because of the reasons above. But now that we have things in place, we got approved and have a plan, I think we will tell them this weekend.