i think our world would have way less problems if people were good parents and weren't so self absorbed in their own life. when i had Tyler it wasnt the ideal situation, but when i first laid eyes on him i knew that it wasn't about me anymore and it was hard to adjust at first because your whole life all you know is you. But i did realize pretty quickly that, i would much rather spend my time with Ty then anyone else in the world and nothing else mattered. A lot of people i know (young and old) dont agree and would rather go hang out with their friends and leave their children with someone else. I guess the main person who does this is James, on his weekends he will go out with his friends and leave tyler and michael to spend 1/2 of the day, the whole night, and the next day at his parents. He has 6+ nights a month to go out without the kids and he does, but he continues to do it when he does have the kids and doesnt see a problem with it. I call him sometimes to see if i can pick up ty early and he tells me he ran to the store or somewhere and the kids are at home with his girlfriend. I dont understand why this has to happen either, when i need to run to the store i either take tyler, or ask jake to go. I just called James now to see when he is coming to pick up ty and he said he needs to wait for his girlfriend to get home so he doesnt have to take mike. I asked him why he didnt want to take him and he said, "i dont want to." Why is it so hard to take him? He is 5, he gets dressed by himself, gets in his car seat by himself and that's really all he has to do, just sit in the car.
I am also babysitting for my friend while i find a job and her boyfriend got fired and doesnt have a job but is still having me watch her while he cleans the house, gets his car fixed, and runs errands (all coming from him). He also never once has said bye to his kid, and everyday he says he will pick her up early and he never has. (its been 3 weeks of this)
I just do not understand this mentality that a child is too annoying to do everyday things that people do all the time with children. James asks me all the time if i ever need a break and need to be social. I tell him that he has Ty every-other weekend and on wed. nights for dinner, that is like 10 nights a month!!! And in my opinion it is wwwaaaayyyy too much! I hate that tyler is away from me that much, i would rather Ty only go over to james' once or twice a month. If i want to do something with friends i wait until those days, and if they want to do something on a different day when i have tyler, i pretty much say no, unless its a special occasion. I dont think he understands how incredibly lucky he is to have as many days as he does with out his kids, most parents dont get to go out ever, and for him to be complaining is completely ridiculous.
PS. I also dont understand when people call their children bad words, not like cuss words but like 'brat' or 'bad' If you dont like the way you raised your kids you should change something about it, not call them names, it's not their fault they act the way they do, its yours.
PSS. I also dont understand why some parents refuse to read any type of parenting book, or website or anything. I know several parents who think that their motherly instincts will just kick in and they will know how to take care of their kid, umm no, you wont. You will not know that its incredibly important for you child to be on a schedule and the reason why your baby is crying is because you dont have a bedtime routine, or that around one they should stop drinking out of a bottle because it will mess up their teeth. You are dumb for thinking you can just know everything.
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I'm glad my best friend is a good parent! Remember when Rachel and I used to watch Tyler every now and then so you could go to classes or work or whatever? We used to take him with us to the store and stuff all the time. We thought it was fun. haha And fyi, when I finally have kids, I'm totally calling you for advice =)
Good parents are parents who don't stop thinking and finding ways to make the life of their children good good . They are thinking of teaching their children to someday grow up and learn to manage their own life when parents are not capable any more of taking care of them.
Well, in my own opinion, young as you maybe you are a good parent. You know and feel what your child wants. There are a lot of children living in the streets, sleeping outside in cold cements no parents visible.
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