Thursday, January 29, 2009
to duty or not to duty
so i got home today with my mailbox overloaded with RSVP cards...and a jury duty notice. I think that most people would think that this is a bad inconvenient thing, but remember that bucket list i made? Serving on a jury is one of them, i think it would be so incredibly awesome!!! But guess what?!?!?!?! i got summoned for March 2nd! yep, that's 5 days before the wedding, it's on that Monday, and i already took wed-Friday off of work. So as much as i really want to go, i think I'm going to have to request to delay it for another time.
Monday, January 26, 2009
I hate Shakespeare… I think it is the dumbest thing on the planet (besides shoes). I know that he lived a long time ago, but I wish that he would just speak normally, instead of using all of these metaphors and old English words. I just found out that one of my favorite movies, ‘10 things I hate about you’ is based on ‘The Taming of the Shrew’. Weird.
So we sent out our invitations last night, if you don’t get one that means we don’t like you. Jake is relieved because he thinks that this means we get to relax now that they are sent out! HA! Apparently he doesn’t know about the other many of things we have to do, but he will…(insert evil laugh here).We seem to be having a problem with deciding the things that should be the easiest for us. For instance, we cannot flipping decide on our first dance, I think this is because music is such an important part of both of our lives, we cannot find anything perfect that fits us. When we first started dating we had this thing about parking in an empty parking lot at night and dancing in the empty lot to music (it was fun). So one night we decided that we needed to pick a song that was ‘ours.’ We picked ‘At Last’ by Etta James, it is an amazing classic love song and probably one of the top first dance songs. So that has been our song for the last 3 ½ years. But I don’t like it anymore, it doesn’t make sense for us. The first part of the song goes like this,
“At last, my love has come along
My lonely days are over”
That is not us at all, we both dated probably 3-4 people before each other and we are young, so it’s not like we’ve been waiting forever to find love. I don’t know, we just cannot find a song that represents us and who we are as a couple. Then we are having a photography issue. I want to be able to have full access to the pictures to be able to edit them myself, and that is usually not possible. These are two things that we care about a lot so we are having a lot of trouble deciding what to do. We will figure it out though and it will be awesome!
So we sent out our invitations last night, if you don’t get one that means we don’t like you. Jake is relieved because he thinks that this means we get to relax now that they are sent out! HA! Apparently he doesn’t know about the other many of things we have to do, but he will…(insert evil laugh here).We seem to be having a problem with deciding the things that should be the easiest for us. For instance, we cannot flipping decide on our first dance, I think this is because music is such an important part of both of our lives, we cannot find anything perfect that fits us. When we first started dating we had this thing about parking in an empty parking lot at night and dancing in the empty lot to music (it was fun). So one night we decided that we needed to pick a song that was ‘ours.’ We picked ‘At Last’ by Etta James, it is an amazing classic love song and probably one of the top first dance songs. So that has been our song for the last 3 ½ years. But I don’t like it anymore, it doesn’t make sense for us. The first part of the song goes like this,
“At last, my love has come along
My lonely days are over”
That is not us at all, we both dated probably 3-4 people before each other and we are young, so it’s not like we’ve been waiting forever to find love. I don’t know, we just cannot find a song that represents us and who we are as a couple. Then we are having a photography issue. I want to be able to have full access to the pictures to be able to edit them myself, and that is usually not possible. These are two things that we care about a lot so we are having a lot of trouble deciding what to do. We will figure it out though and it will be awesome!
Friday, January 23, 2009
Get off your ass and stop takin my money!!!
My friend “Jane” has 3 kids and an ass hole husband who doesn’t live in the same state as her. (he is at the moment but he has only lived with her for 4 weeks in 2 years so far). So she obviously needs help financially, so she goes to the state and asks for help with daycare, they then tell her that before they do that she needs to file for child support against her husband. She does (but he doesn’t pay) and she gets daycare help. So instead of paying almost $2,000.00 a month for daycare she pays $200. This is great, because she needs to work to support her family, which she takes care of by herself. So tax season rolls around and she claims two of her kids and her husband claims the other one and she then gets his refund because he doesn’t pay child support. I know that she could use this, as long as she doesn’t blow it on shopping, so it’s good. It’s important to know that when you are filing your taxes the govnt. only counts up to $3000 for your daycare refund (you don’t get all of this back, just a %) so “Jane” paid $2400 in daycare bills last year for her 3 kids, I paid almost $8000 for Tyler. “Jane” gets around $700 back from the gvnt and I get $800. So that 5-6 thousand extra bucks that I spent on ty I get $100 extra back. This is very screwy to me. I make about $200 a month “too much” to qualify for daycare, and because of this I have to pay $400.00 a month more then I would if I had help from the state. (although I would pay it all myself anyways).
*note* the next part is about welfare, I have nothing against it, as I was on it for a couple months, but it is about the people who abuse it. This does not apply to you “Jane”.
I have a major problem with people who abuse the welfare system, I think it is especially bad in Arizona because of all of the illegal’s. But just ignoring the illegal thing, there are a ton of lazy people who abuse the system. I think welfare is a great thing if you need it, it saved my life after I had Ty, but I know that nobody can rely on it forever. I don’t like that people go to the DES office and sign up for food stamps, monthly bill help (I forgot what it’s called but the govnt just sends you a check every month), daycare help, and insurance. You can literally go to the doc/hospital whenever you want just because you have a cough and you don’t have to pay a penny for it. Then you can head over to the grocery store and spend 500 bucks for groceries and not having to worry about clipping coupons, because it’s free to you. All the mean time your kids are in daycare (so you don’t have to watch them) because you don’t have to pay for it and the state is sending you a check every month for the 4 hours a week you work at Mc Donald’s. Then tax season rolls around and you only made a couple thousand at your job and you have a bazillion kids so the govnt sends you a check for 4-6 grand. I really think that our state and govnt. needs to do a better job at investigating who we are giving our money to; it really makes me sad to see it wasted on people like this. We need to give it to people who deserve it, like “Jane” who is a single mom of 3 but works 40 hrs a week at a good job.
*note* the next part is about welfare, I have nothing against it, as I was on it for a couple months, but it is about the people who abuse it. This does not apply to you “Jane”.
I have a major problem with people who abuse the welfare system, I think it is especially bad in Arizona because of all of the illegal’s. But just ignoring the illegal thing, there are a ton of lazy people who abuse the system. I think welfare is a great thing if you need it, it saved my life after I had Ty, but I know that nobody can rely on it forever. I don’t like that people go to the DES office and sign up for food stamps, monthly bill help (I forgot what it’s called but the govnt just sends you a check every month), daycare help, and insurance. You can literally go to the doc/hospital whenever you want just because you have a cough and you don’t have to pay a penny for it. Then you can head over to the grocery store and spend 500 bucks for groceries and not having to worry about clipping coupons, because it’s free to you. All the mean time your kids are in daycare (so you don’t have to watch them) because you don’t have to pay for it and the state is sending you a check every month for the 4 hours a week you work at Mc Donald’s. Then tax season rolls around and you only made a couple thousand at your job and you have a bazillion kids so the govnt sends you a check for 4-6 grand. I really think that our state and govnt. needs to do a better job at investigating who we are giving our money to; it really makes me sad to see it wasted on people like this. We need to give it to people who deserve it, like “Jane” who is a single mom of 3 but works 40 hrs a week at a good job.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
i just wanted to say that jake finally had a bad dream about our wedding last night. Not that it's good to have bad dreams but at least i know he's thinking about it. He dreamt that he got stoned and went completely goofy then missed all of the important things, then he was sad about it afterwards (in his dream & when he was awake).
At least we're not having bad dreams about not wanting to marry eachother, that would be a bad sign, but that wont happen.
45 days!!! : )
At least we're not having bad dreams about not wanting to marry eachother, that would be a bad sign, but that wont happen.
45 days!!! : )
This morning our new receptionist started, I haven’t gotten the chance to really talk to her yet but one of the first things that someone said to me this morning was, “I hope none of the racist people working here have a problem with this.” I was completely taken back by this, I cannot believe that this crap would still be around. To even think that there could be a problem is absurd to me, especially considering the events that happened yesterday. Not that I think things could change over night, but it’s been like 50 years, it is 2009 get over it.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Um, so I am getting married in 47 days. I don’t know where the time went!! It’s been over 15 months since we got engaged and it has gone by so fast. I feel like I have done nothing but plan the wedding in the 15 months. Seriously I feel like I have really not accomplished anything else in life besides that.
Next subject:
I think everyone comes to a point in there life when they realize that life is short and I realized that probably around Ty’s 2nd birthday. (The first birthday he is still a baby, but the 2nd well he is a toddler, running around, speaking well etc.) I remember thinking, what happened? I just had him yesterday?!?!?! When I realized that life is too short and that he’ll be going off to school, getting girl friends, moving out and I knew that I had a short time to spend with him, I mean really, I could die any minute. So I made a promise to spend as much time with him as possible, teach him things and make sure that I raise him the best I can. But I also started to realize (from watching Oprah) that no matter what I want to think, my life is also about me. Even though Ty is the center of my world and he is always first, I have to also make sure my life is great while making his (and Jake’s) amazing. So I came up with a ‘bucket list’ (did anyone see that movie?) a list of things to do before I die. I told someone this and they thought it was kind of morbid, but how are you ever going to accomplish anything you want to do if you don’t know what it is? So I started writing down things and so far it is over 3 pages typed up. But I wrote down every little thing I wanted to do to make sure that I didn’t miss out on anything. And even if I don’t get to do all of it, at least I knew what I wanted to do and tried to do them. I would say that 85% of the things on my list either involve our whole family, or just me and Jake, so it will be fun for everyone. Some of the things on my list:
- Take a photography class
- Teach Ty to read before school
- Go to Disneyland on Christmas
- Be in NYC on new years eve
- Go on the Disney cruise with family
- Make-out under a waterfall : )
- Take a cross country road trip during summer break with family
- Learn a foreign language and go to a country to use it
- Stay in a five star resort
- See at least 10 more Broadway plays in NY
- Throw a surprise party for someone I love
And a lot of other things.
Next subject:
I think everyone comes to a point in there life when they realize that life is short and I realized that probably around Ty’s 2nd birthday. (The first birthday he is still a baby, but the 2nd well he is a toddler, running around, speaking well etc.) I remember thinking, what happened? I just had him yesterday?!?!?! When I realized that life is too short and that he’ll be going off to school, getting girl friends, moving out and I knew that I had a short time to spend with him, I mean really, I could die any minute. So I made a promise to spend as much time with him as possible, teach him things and make sure that I raise him the best I can. But I also started to realize (from watching Oprah) that no matter what I want to think, my life is also about me. Even though Ty is the center of my world and he is always first, I have to also make sure my life is great while making his (and Jake’s) amazing. So I came up with a ‘bucket list’ (did anyone see that movie?) a list of things to do before I die. I told someone this and they thought it was kind of morbid, but how are you ever going to accomplish anything you want to do if you don’t know what it is? So I started writing down things and so far it is over 3 pages typed up. But I wrote down every little thing I wanted to do to make sure that I didn’t miss out on anything. And even if I don’t get to do all of it, at least I knew what I wanted to do and tried to do them. I would say that 85% of the things on my list either involve our whole family, or just me and Jake, so it will be fun for everyone. Some of the things on my list:
- Take a photography class
- Teach Ty to read before school
- Go to Disneyland on Christmas
- Be in NYC on new years eve
- Go on the Disney cruise with family
- Make-out under a waterfall : )
- Take a cross country road trip during summer break with family
- Learn a foreign language and go to a country to use it
- Stay in a five star resort
- See at least 10 more Broadway plays in NY
- Throw a surprise party for someone I love
And a lot of other things.
Monday, January 12, 2009
I had the weirdest weekend. I’ll start off with the baby shower, it sucked. Seriously. I don’t know if it was because I was a bad hostess or because the ‘father to be’ is an A$$, but everything sucked. First off nobody knew each other, she invited one person (couple) from every group that she knew. So that was awkward. Second off the father to be decided that he didn’t want to be involved except he would like to get everybody drunk. He went out and bought over $100.00 of alcohol, which in my opinion is completely inappropriate. He didn’t want to sit next to his girlfriend and help her in any way, and he was just a complete pompous the hole time. Nobody wanted to play any games and they just wanted to open the presents and then have a party. I really think the worst part of it was that I had to stay there the whole time. I wanted to leave so bad! And I wanted to punch this guy in the face on my way out. I feel so bad for this girl, why is she with him??? UGH!
(*side note) Speaking of bad couples, James just e-mailed me and told me that him and his gf/fiancé broke up. While I feel for him and what he must be going through after living together and dating for 2 or 3 years I am beyond ecstatic. I seriously wanted to cry because I was so happy. It has to be the best thing he has done in his life in a long time.
Then on Sunday my mom and I worked on invitations all day, just cutting and cutting paper. It was really tiring. I would have rather paid the extra $200.00 to have the invitation place cut them, but oh well.
So my cable got shut off because I completely forgot about it (again), and while I could just pay it I decided to keep it off to see what happened. It has been amazing! Seriously I never realized how much time you lose when you are just watching TV. We usually are movie people and we only watch 3 shows a week religiously, but most of the time we just use the cable for the movie channels and for ordering movies. But it’s been off since like Wednesday and I feel so much closer to my family. It’s not like we watch a lot of TV, Ty usually watches one ½ an hour recorded show a day while I make dinner and then Jake and I watch a movie at night. But having Ty help me with dinner and just talking to Jake at night is way better. So while I’m going to turn it back on tonight because I honestly cannot miss gossip girl (!!!!), I am going to try to keep it off more. It’s a waist of valuable family time.
(*side note) Speaking of bad couples, James just e-mailed me and told me that him and his gf/fiancé broke up. While I feel for him and what he must be going through after living together and dating for 2 or 3 years I am beyond ecstatic. I seriously wanted to cry because I was so happy. It has to be the best thing he has done in his life in a long time.
Then on Sunday my mom and I worked on invitations all day, just cutting and cutting paper. It was really tiring. I would have rather paid the extra $200.00 to have the invitation place cut them, but oh well.
So my cable got shut off because I completely forgot about it (again), and while I could just pay it I decided to keep it off to see what happened. It has been amazing! Seriously I never realized how much time you lose when you are just watching TV. We usually are movie people and we only watch 3 shows a week religiously, but most of the time we just use the cable for the movie channels and for ordering movies. But it’s been off since like Wednesday and I feel so much closer to my family. It’s not like we watch a lot of TV, Ty usually watches one ½ an hour recorded show a day while I make dinner and then Jake and I watch a movie at night. But having Ty help me with dinner and just talking to Jake at night is way better. So while I’m going to turn it back on tonight because I honestly cannot miss gossip girl (!!!!), I am going to try to keep it off more. It’s a waist of valuable family time.
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